Last Updated on June 19, 2023 by Kristen
Roz Kaur has been a stylist for nearly three decades, and her 287,000 followers on Instagram trust her advice on personal style, in particular for women over 50.
Her posts inspired me to actually get dressed in the depth of the pandemic when it felt fancy to put on a clean sweatsuit. I’ve taken fashion risks I never would have had I never encountered her fabulousness. And she has taught me that the most important style rule is to wear what makes you feel good.
Roz mostly posts about fashion and style, but recently she also shared that to celebrate her 56th birthday in December, she visited registered nurse Lori Mitchell in Folsom, California, for dermal fillers. I love Roz’s transparency on this topic because while Botox and fillers are certainly more accepted than they once were, they still carry a stigma.
Our society insists women to look attractive at all times, and if we don’t, we’re told to “make an effort.” When we do—whether by losing weight, plastic surgery, or editing our photos—we’re criticized, often harshly. So I was thrilled to see that Roz was being outspoken about her choices. The more we can own our choices and bring them out of the shadows, the less power we give to societal pressures.
Maybe you’re up for a few tweakments—how are they so different from coloring your hair or eating and exercising to change your body composition? Or maybe you embrace your lines and wrinkles as markers of a life well-lived.
There’s no right or wrong, and Roz reminds us of that in her post. I was curious to know more about her experience, and she was kind enough to answer my nosy questions. Read on to learn more about her decision making process, her thoughts on youth obsession, and how she avoids caring about other people’s perceptions.
When you were younger, did you have thoughts about fillers or other similar interventions?
“Absolutely not! Because It’s hard to think about being 40 when you’re 20. Also back then there was so much prejudice against anti-aging procedures. Botox was basically a bad word. Back then, no one talked about ‘having work done,’ and yet it was perfectly fine to spend hundreds of dollars having your hair dyed, cut, and blow-dried.
My Mom was upset when I told her. I said ‘everybody does it,’ and she was like, ‘Yes but they don’t say it.'”
How did you decide to get fillers?
“I eat well, exercise, and take care of myself, so why wouldn’t I want my appearance to be as healthy and youthful as my lifestyle? I wanted to look as young as I feel. I felt my outward age just didn’t match my inner age.”
How did you decide which area on your face you would address?
“For me, it was the marionette lines at the corners of the mouth and the lines from your nose to the corners of your mouth (nasolabial folds).
My goal was to look more rested and refreshed while maintaining natural-looking results.”
What was the experience like? Was it painful?
“I immediately noticed a fresher, rejuvenated appearance. I decided to go with Revanesse Versa (hyaluronic acid dermal filler) as the treatment is minimally-invasive and provides immediate results. There was no pain whatsoever!”
How do you like the results?
“I opted for ‘less is more’—a light touch-up since natural-looking results were important to me! I can see a subtle but noticeable difference.”
Do you think you’ll do it again?
“Yes! Look, the aging process is inevitable for everyone, and I feel these injectable fillers did help give me a fresher, rejuvenated appearance. If women have the desire to have their faces and bodies reflect how they feel and think and not just their chronological age then I personally think there’s no harm.
As much as you want to love your inner self, you also want to look good. I don’t think you should do it for anyone else, but if it makes you feel confident, that’s amazing!”
What are your thoughts on how women are judged for their appearance? I.e. if women don’t do everything in their power to look younger they’re criticized for looking old, if they do they’re criticized for trying too hard to look young, etc.
“I think we as women should try not to be triggered by fears about how we’re perceived, but rather consciously shift our thoughts to a more positive outlook. If we project confidence, we’ll automatically seem more competent—regardless of what biases are in the minds of other people.
And that’s where a large portion of what I do comes in….. Use style to ‘protect or reflect’ your mood, which basically means that when you’re not feeling your best, use style to help lift your mood. Wear something that does make you feel good because you want to be firing on all cylinders. Because at the end of the day, as we age as women, our performance counts but so does a youthful and attractive appearance. That’s the double whammy!”
Anything else we should know?
“I think getting Botox/fillers is something everyone needs to decide for themselves. I’m not going to preach about whether it is good or bad. For me, it was just the tiniest amount sprinkled here and there to take the edge off.
When you go in for a consultation, make sure your clinician listens to your concerns, performs a thorough evaluation, discusses your options, and designs a treatment plan tailored to your specific needs.”